How to get your ex boyfriend back
During a breakup, a woman goes through a roller coaster of emotions, grief, and heartbreak. When it happens, she’ll begin to think of how to get him back, thinking that the only way to end all of this pain is to get back together with her ex boyfriend. So how to get your ex boyfriend back?
If your relationship is out of control, or you want to get your ex boyfriend back, there still is hope. If you follow the simple tips and tricks to make him want you again, you not only can get him back, but also get him to commit more than ever before. Here’s how.
- Make him miss you. When it comes to getting back with your man, making him miss you is the most effective way to do so. When he misses you, he’ll beg to be with you again, and this makes it way quicker to pick up the phone and start things over. But he can’t miss you if you don’t leave him alone or if you keep begging him for forgiveness or bombarding him with texts in hopes that he’ll see the error of his ways. A zero contact period is the first step suggested by all relationship experts to women who want to win their ex back.
- Agree or Apologize. Just as important as staying out of contact, a little note that lets him know you agree that a break is a good thing won’t hurt. This is exactly the opposite of what he is expecting from you. Wishing him the best at the end in a formal but mysterious manner will start triggering those feelings in him as well. He expects you to act psycho to remind him why he broke up in the first place. But when you don’t, it tells him that maybe he shouldn’t have let you go in the beginning.
- Stop focusing on what you have lost. Focus on what you have to gain instead. When we are caught up in grief, the only thing we can think of is getting that person back in our life. When we look on the bigger picture, it’s easier to manuever around that feeling of grief. This break is a good period, a reset time so to speak, and when you both have rebooted, you both would have grown and have so much more to look forward to when you do come back together.
- Live your life for you again, not for you as a couple. In fact, this may be the reason why he broke up with you to begin with. He might have felt the pressure that he was the only thing in your life making you happy. As nice as it sounds, it puts responsibility on him that he feel he may not be able to live up to. When you create a happy for yourself, it sends him the message that the pressure of your happiness is not ALL on his shoulders.
- Get back in the just-met-him mindset. Most women trying to get their ex back make the mistake of starting over right after a breakup. This is actually the worst thing you can do because this will only remind him of the pain and reasons why you all broke up. Start new, like you’ve just met. Remember to stay mysterious, always look stunning, and that is more important now than ever to impress him into wanting you back in his life.
- Fix what is broken. Sometimes women are lucky enough to get a reason for a breakup. If that’s the case, and it has something to do with you or your life, fixing it will tell him that you’re really serious about wanting him in your life. Sometimes these things can’t be fixed, like distance, or jobs, or even infidelity. What you can do in these situations is show him very gently that you are going on with awesomeness in your life that can be achieved even through a difficult time like this.
- Use the past to your advantage. After you have successfully gone through a zero-contact period, you have already made him miss you. The next step to take is to remind him with a little tease of the history the two of you had before, about how wonderful being with you was. A little note saying you saw something that reminded you of him, a special memory, or the like, along with a pressure-free “Hope you are well, see ya!” signoff tells him that you’re thinking about him, but aren’t holding him up to anything. This enhances the element of making him miss you, even more than he already does.
The Bottom Line
Knowing how to get your ex boyfriend back is easier than women think. Going back to dating someone whom you’ve already dated is easy because you already have history, affection and chemistry between the both of you. You know what he likes and dislikes, and why you broke up. Use those elements to make him miss you, it is the biggest secret weapon you have to get him back—and more committed than ever.